Our lives are all about choosing the next step. Whether we buy into 'planned destiny' or not- as a society we still strive for the ability to choose.
The 'Green' movement is based largely on making consumer choices (or opting out of consumer choices). As sad as it may sound, no one truly believes the government has a lot of control in the matter and we've all 'bought in' on the belief that since money makes the world go 'round, how we *choose* to spend it (or not) will make a difference.
The current North American Yoga Culture is based on choice. We choose what we wear, what mat we practice on, and what style of yoga we practice.
We're judged on both counts. Greenies want to make the BEST choices (and there are always reasons why one is better than another) and yogis want to convert other yogis to the BEST yoga style (in one breath arguing why one style really DOES answer all woes and ending with the sad attempt at false inclusivity of 'but _____ style isn't for everyone'...wtf? you don't believe that! you just spent 5 paragraphs arguing if applied properly, or committed to appropriately, implying that all failure is the fault of the practitioner and NOT the practice, it was the answer to world peace!! Bah!).
As a feminist, I feel strongly that I should have a choice in how I live my life as a person. I don't want to feel that someone else is making a decision on my worth or identity based on the fact of my genital parts.
I have a friend who chooses not to have children. I've witnessed the 'just give it a few years, you'll see' remarks (honestly, I should have given him a little kick in the shins for that one... but I punked out for social etiquette... and we were at a birthday party...).
Her decision is a great environmental decision, no matter how you slice it. The reality is that babies pollute. Instead of made to feel awesome (as she should) by her choice, she's judged for making a decision that is best for HER self and her body.
As if she were born to make babies. As if her uterus defines her entire point of existing.
I'm sorry, I really don't want to be defined by a piece of my anatomy. There is nothing abnormal about deciding not to make children. I know hundreds of amazing parents, but I also have seen first hand how sensitive children are to parental input.
Honestly, I admire her courage and self-awareness.
She has the self-awareness to know that children are not for her. That takes a huge dose of courage to stand up to social pressure and to make a decision that is best for HER and her partner. Instead of judgement, I am in awe of her Strength.
Instead of passing judgement let's celebrate how we can make informed choices.
Let's recognize that not all choices are circles. Some are octagons.
(Me and my Gorgeously Righteous friend H. She is a an awesome Hockey player!)
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