I've started deleting "friends" from my facebook. Yes I have become that person.
A few months ago I saw my "friend" number... it was almost at 500. Seriously? Are these people really my "friends"? It was ridiculous. I was dreading sharing pictures because of the amount of people who would see them. Basically strangers had access to photos of my wedding, of my kittens! All attached to my name, where I live, where I work.
I had a moment where I thought- what the eff am I doing? Since when do I need to share that much information with that many people who really don't care about my life?
So I started deleting. Criteria was pretty amorphous at first. If someone posted something on my facebook that I found offensive: I'd delete them (racist rap videos? spamming my feed with offensive slurs? buhbye!). Most of these people were acquaintances from elementary and high school anyway. Offensive ex-boyfriend: why the heck was he on my facebook anyway?
Then, someone on twitter pointed out that if they wouldn't be friends with them in real life, why bother sharing that much information on facebook? Perfect. People who had been random acquaintances from long ago, delete!
Now, I definitely have had twinges of guilt. Like: what if they notice and are offended? What if they reacted like the "why I was unfriended because of an elephant" post?
But then I realized... facebook isn't a place for me to share a ton of personal information with random people I hardly know. These people aren't my friends, they are barely acquaintances. I should be able to choose who I share my personal space with. Being "unfriended" by someone you weren't friends to begin with isn't rational. It's missing what true friendship means.
Facebook is an extremely useful connecting tool. I use it all the time for organizing yoga in the park, communicating with friends, connecting with people who live far away and sharing my life with family. For myself, it is not a place where I *have* to share these things with every single person walking through the realms of my past or my present life. It's becoming a sort of weird social etiquette if you delete or turn down a friend request- no matter the request-ee.
I love writing my blog, and I love sharing and connecting on Twitter.
I do feel that it is my choice should I want a small part of my online "life" to remain somewhat more secluded, a tiny bit more private. And that is what facebook is for me- a way to share more intimate parts of my daily life with people who are truly friends and family.
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